Monthly Archives: December 2015

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NO NO NOOOOOOOOOOO!

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“Oh No, Not Again” ! Is it your reaction thinking one more negative article in my blog? .

Hold on ! Your Patience is being tested for next few minutes.

I have written several sections in previous days on the pain points of an entrepreneur, manpower issues, echo system negativity and so on. And few of my active readers complained about it – stating “I am getting too much bogged down into negativity”.

But point is different, I was never been influenced, induced into negativity even though the overall sorounding echo system is prone towards the same. In terms of spelling out those negative characteristics in different forms (writing blogs/articles, lectures, trainings) was intended to articulate the negatives sothat all of us (including me) may not repeat the mistakes (learning from past experience) and stay tuned towards positive spirits of life. In eighteen years of my career (12 years in employment and 6 years of Entrepreneurship so far), my intention was always to ride the boat against the wave. There were several situations like follows:

  • Something is not happening,
  • some work is getting impacted,
  • customer service is getting suffered, quality is being impacted,
  • performance is being dipped for a group/organization,
  • People are not able to handle it,
  • People are not able to understand positive philosophies of life.

In all those cases, my tendency was to take part into transactions in order to get things done in order to make them understand “how negatives can be converted into positives” (otherwords “leading from the front”). But unfortunately I could not turn a small leave of the tree and instead burdened myself into bandwidth crunch, stress and off course became dissatisfied, irritatated, impatient, short tempered and unhappy.

In retrospection in last few months, I discovered that I was wrong and in effect practicing to restratezige my thoughts.

Before stepping into more deliberation on the same, let me tell you a story (though real one).

Champa is our cook for last one year. She used to cook for us earlier also. She left and joined back in the second innings. Below are few of her beharial approaches:

  • She cannot make “milk tea”,
  • she do not cook chicken/meats
  • She never prepared Pithe, Payes, Beguni and do not know how to cook.
  • She does not eat several fishes and curries. And off course she is reluctant to cook those (or learn).
  • She can neither prepare spices manually due to back pain nor she can not handle mixy (rather she is reluctant to learn it’s handling).
  • She asks every steps (no of spoons of oil, salt, duration of sauté/boiling) and even sometimes pushes my mother/wife to wake up from sleep and taste (she cooks in abnormal time – 3pm to 5pm as her other slots are occupied due to extreme demand).

She conducts all pujas at her home (apart from traditional durgapuja, kalipuja, rashpurnima, manasa puja, kartik puja even) and all pujas she devotes herself to the devine god/godess with fasting. In effect she loves to take leave on those days.

She stays in a 5 mins walking distance from our home, but every possible events (like vote, strike by any political party), she avoids attending work due to fear factor.

Lastly, most importantly, during last durgapuja my in laws (father in law and mother in law) stayed with us for around a month. End of the month she told my mother to contribute some additions to her salary due to 2 additional persons. Her monthly salary INR 2250 ( family members 3 adults and 2 kids).

Thanks for your patience for reading such a long story and it appears to be irrelevant to you.

No. It’s not ! The story reveals overall attitude towards work – let it be a cook or office boy, sales guy, service engineer. The reactions / behavioral attitude of everyone is focused on finding reasons/clauses for “non-doing things”. Same is applicable to taxi drivers, rikswa walla, auto drivers, office employees and even my kids.

Yellow taxies are always having protest against new Services (Ola, uber, taxi for sure etc), but even in busy afternoon they are reluctant to go almost anywhere. At 2pm afternoon 4 yellow taxies refused to ride ultadanga to airport stating ” lunch time”, “Break cord broken” ( তার কাটা) ” Will not go that side” (ওদিকে যাব না). Interestingly got same answers while intented to travel camac street to esplanade same time other day ( people who are familiar with Kolkata geography, may clearly understand the locations are in proper Kolkata only, not outside).My immediate reaction comes in this situation s “Where you will go”?. But now I realized no point wasting temper/energy in those situations.

Situations are having no alterations while dealing subordinates/employees. If there is a sudden need of a customer support for whole night and situation arises in the morning only (I.e emergency, no prior information/preparation), employees will come out will all possible exercises and you will feel yourself in awkward situations (thinking who is employer):

  • Having some personal work tonight, can not do it
  • Why did not intimate me earlier?
  • Why don’t you allocate this to ” X” ( his fellow colleague, though he will have reservations in the same lines or different)
  • Better would be to ask customer to do it day after tomorrow.
  • Why Customer cannot do it in normal working office hours?

Ideal response comes to my mind is “****” (yes “slang”), but I have learnnt now holding my nerve as no point riding the boat against the wave.

There were situations where I tried to make people understand, mould their philosophies to turn into positives, but all went in vain. Neither they followed my principle, nor could deliver results (not interested more precisely).Rather, I know in these situations, people always believe:

  • These thoughts (my imposed thoughts) are impractical, impossible, un realistic
  • Those are wastage of time
  • Something else/some other thoughts / mechanisms should be tried instead of those idealistic philosophies.
  • The thoughts are useless, non sense.
  • Unnecessary speed will spoil the game.

So hold yourself. Why to waste time and energy in serving people who does not deserve it ( উলুবনে মুক্তো ছড়ানো)?

We can not control anyone other than self. The moment self control is utmost, that will reflect positive energies and attract people towards it (pull) instead we forcefully make them understand (push).

Let us store our energy to use it at proper time.


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“Live life King Size” : A Biopic

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Live life “King Size”.

This statement is very well known and I am not here to suggest audience why/how to do it?

Rather I will here take you through a life story of a person and I presume the self will be self-explanatory how he did it.

It is about my father Late Gautam Kumar Mukherjee. 14th December was his death anniversary. He left us heavenly on 14th December, 2012. He was 67 years old during death. Below are few glimpses in my childhood

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His life was eventful, blended with fight, turbulence, enthusiasm, excitement and enlightenment.

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Late Paresh Chandra Mukherjee was originated from Dhaka Vikrampur and he belongs to Murapra Jaminder family. He was a decent business man during his time in Bengal and owned a pitch board box manufacturing plant during 40s. Unfortunately he had a major road accident and met unfortunate demise at the age of 49years only. He left five of children behind (4sons and one daughter) including my father. My father was the third child of my grandparents (one elder brother and one elder sister, two younger brothers). During my grandfather’s death, my father was at class seven and his youngest brother was only four years old. So he caught into difficult situations of life where he had been bound to become tough fighter not by choice, but by force.

But he not only survived, but countered the situation on his favor under the guidance of maternal uncle ( he had to act like a guardian of the family as his elder brother not only ruined the family business, but also escaped from the situation and settled in Mumbai keeping entire family behind).

He got settled himself in career, gradually built house in Birati (my present home where I reside since birth). The land was procured by my grandfather as after Independence, they came from Bangladesh and settled in a rented place in Daksnineswar. With the rise of business, grandfather had plans to construct family house in Birati. But unfortunatel same could not be materialized due to his accidental death.

Gradually elder sister got married, family situation revived and my father led it on his own shoulder.

This was just one side of his characteristics. But he was multi-talented man.

He was a great athlete. In his time own lot of office championship not only in outdoor games (running, long jump, football), but also in indoors (cards, carom etc). In my childhoods all costly crockeries in my house was the prizes own by him during games.

Below are few pictures of his live performance and prizes:

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Few of his prizes:

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He was fond of traveling. He had covered almost all corners of India including tracking. I heard so many stories of tracking speacily nanda devi, keder-badri etc. This got inherited to me since my childhoods. We visited somany places togetherlike kashir, entire south India, gujrat and Rajasthan, simla-kulu-manal, nainitali , char dham , sundarban , dooars, north-east, bangladesh etc. The trips were long terms (15 – 20 days together) in groups. I had been to the trips completely by bus (Kolkata to Kolkata). 50 people together with cook, helper, food ingredients with us were awesome experience. There had been several overnight travels by bus and we did took breaks in petrol pump at night. Our cooks used to make quick dinner (rice, daal, sabji, egg/chicken) and it was indeed a picnic mood (kids like us used to sing, recite, play mean the time food was ready). Audience might be wondering or may be finding is troublesome, but believe me the kind of joy we had was absolutely not available in our today’s luxurious trips.

Few snaps below as he went for trecking:

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Few other travel pictures:

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As we went together places:

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Everytime we used to comeback, general practise was to take snaps with all children in our locality surrounding our home. Now I can relate, how those small things created better social bonding and retained our sweet memories.

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He was foodie and was popular in the community. There were several stories which are still on words in our relatives. There was an incident of a marriage ceremony where he took 163 rassgollas after full course heavy meal (this is not a story).

Every event (marriage, burial, sports, picnic, tour/travel anything and everything) in our locality, friends circle, relatives, he was a default choice to lead, guide, drive. Even today I find people regrets his absence in case of any occasions. “আজ যদি গৌতম বেঁচে থাকতো, তাহলে কি আর আমাদের কোন চিন্তা ছিল?”(We would have been tension free if Gautam was here) was the latest version of thoughts during invitation for the death rituals during father in laws death.

Anyone wanted to plan a trip, his suggestions/guidance was must in our circle. His experience, tips, inputs were most valuable to them (as he visited most of the places) apart from his knowledge/passion for the subject.

He did not have a professional singing training, but he was a good singer. He was an armature performer. Every year he used to organize and perform in Office Drama with his friends. I have several of such performance in Mahajati Sadan. All office colleagues used to join their with family (different ambiance, culture compared to today’s night party with hard drinks, DJ and dance). I had seen him performing in “Raktakarabi” in local club associations.

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He has been instrumental in organizing Durgapuja, Kalipuja in his time. He was a hardcore communist and used to be deeply engaged in political activities in 70s.

The organization skills, management abilities, Execution process were truly awesome and would have been automatic choice in any organization project management present needs. Let me give you a small example of my marriage. There were around 50+ relatives were supposed to come and stay for 3 days. Staying arrangements for them were with the surrounding houses besides our home.

Every house was populated with daily ingredients (bucket, mug, soap, shampoo, mosquito coil, oil, bedding). There were delighted people to look after starting from morning tea, breakfast, lunch, evening snacks and dinner. Every possible transactions were drafted, planned, documented and executed with perfection in time with the assistance of my mother.

He was a government worker. But I have never seen him dipped into the so-called work culture. He never missed office (unauthorized leaves) due to any issues (natural calamities, ill health or any other petty issues). He was punctual at office timings and accountable/responsible for his work with his heart (the attitude is missing in today’s private enterprise even).

His life was extremely disciplined, time bound and well planned. His personality was little tough , rigid and straight. People used to be afraid (incuding me) of him due to his angry image, his loud/bold voice.

I still wonder how he could connect different dimensions of life. Our present problems of “bandwidth crunch” seem to be pitty if we compare with him.

The journey from down to top, building / earning “roti, kapra, makaan” by ownself and then touching different spirits of life truly reveals “Living life King size”.

Let his soul rest in peace. Looking forward meeting him in some form in some life.


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60 minutes of Turbulence in life

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Irony:

5th December, 2015.

Yes it was my birthday. But it got ruined due to sudden death of my father-in-law. It was Saturday afternoon, he left us behind and approached for heaven.

December is always horror month so far 2012 onwards. In 2012, lost my father in a sudden heart attack. My mother got neuro attack during death Anniversary of my father in 2013. Then she got shoulder dislocation last year (2014).  And now father-in-law expired all of a sudden in 2015.

But irony is both the deaths (my father and father-in-law) took place in such an unexpected manner, entire balance of life got disturbed with the turbulence. And during both the incidents, I was present throughout and best possible medications arranged as per our capability (and availability). But both the situation was beyond control of medical science and we were left only with the prayers to the Supreme Lord.

Background:

30th November, 2015 evening he (father-in-law) played with his Grand Daughters and he was completely in peace and joy. But a major cerebral Attack at 9.30pm caused the major damage to his life. His son (my brother in law) was fortunately in station (actually he stays in Hyderabad with family due to his career) for a family marriage occasion, though he was not at home at that particular moment. However all of us rushed to him by 10pm and incidentally he got admitted in a premiere nursing home in emergency. By this time he was completely unconscious. His last words before leaving home was “I am finished, do take care of your mother. Let me go to my mother “( আমি শেষ, মাকে দেখিস, আমি মায়ের কাছে চললাম ). Now after his death, my realization is that people (soul) get indications of his / her life endpoints. Otherwise why my mother-in-law called us (over phone) even before she goes to see her husband on the first floor? (Father-in-law informed her over intercom that he is not feeling well). And also remember last words of father-in-law (as mentioned above).

30th night was sleepless for us in nursing home emergency and it was followed by a neuro operations next day morning. His Criticality kept on becoming severe and the brain got completely disconnected with rest of the organs. Doctors were never optimist and his misery ended to his death on 5th. The brain hemorrhage was so intense (mid of the brain), it was almost impossible to operate (as per doctors). However doctors tried to create a bypass path by creating a channel to flow fluids externally in order to reduce pressure on brain. Unfortunate the back fire happened due to Aspirin as well (the medicine being taken by major patients in old age to avoid clotting of blood). The medicine influences further secretion of blood even after the attack and made the situation towards unavoidable circumstances.

A 60 minutes turbulence not only taken away a life (he was only 72), but did unbalanced associated people. Brother in law and his family (wife and two daughters) were about to return on 2nd December, 2015. They were forced to cancel their ticket and in effect elder daughter missed her exams, junior missed out getting forms for new admission.

Lifeline:

Asesh Darsan Chatterjee (father in law) was a great person with very humble and gentle approach. He was very soft, friendly, but expressive character. He loved talking to people with a big smile. Interacting with new people and build good connection was in his fingertips. Almost everyone in my locality knows him as used to talk with everyone. Appreciations to everyone even for a small cause was his great characteristic. He was dead against of being rude / tough on kids. Always he cared of them with gifts of any price. He was very particular about quality. He used to visit defense canteen (being ex-army person) very frequently in order to bring stuffs for grandchildren.

He had been to several places in India during his working tenure starting from Pune to coochbihar. It was a thrilling experience while listening from his mouth about his life experience. He was an enriched soul, having deep inclination towards spirituality. It seems his experience/learning objective in this physical state was accomplished and in effect he left for a different plane/dimension. His life in this state must have accumulated more karmic debt and in effect his next life will be easier and more meaningful.

Turbulence:

In a three years window I had experienced two persons’ demise all of a Sudden. Both of the fathers almost took the same path of evacuation from life. My father was admitted in the nursing home in planned manner for monitoring (since he had a major sugar fall last day). He was admitted at 9.30 am. The massive Attack appeared at 9.45am all of a sudden and taken away the life by 10.15am. It was such a rapid Attack, Trop T could not detect the same as well. Same was for father in law this time.

May their souls rest in peace. My prayer to the supreme lord to keep them with the best possible ways and guide us in case any assistance can be extended through our small possible karmic life here.

Father

Father

Father-In-Law

 

 


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